Scorpio Lovers

October 23-November 22

Most compatible: Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn, Pisces

Scorpios are ruled by both fiery Mars and destructive Pluto, and this reflects their two relationship modes. Scorpios love intensely but also fight intensely. Scorpio relationships are certainly never dull.

New Love

When looking for love, Scorpios like to be pursued. They will send clear signals that they are interested, but will rarely make the first move as they want the affirmation of being pursued and wooed. They love the intensity of meeting someone new and like to go all out when it comes to the initial dating process, both giving, and expecting to receive, over the top gestures of affection.

Budding Relationships

Scorpios fall in love fast and hard, but even after they have found someone they have intense feelings for, they will be reluctant to drop the persona they present to the world and share the deep font of emotions that they keep bottled up underneath. When Scorpios do finally let their guard down, it is a big deal for them, and if their partner fails to recognise that, the walls can come up again quickly and harder than before.

Long-Term Relationships

As Scorpios love the thrill of new relationships, the stability of long-term relationships can be difficult, and they can be tempted by potential new loves. While tempted, Scorpios are loyal and unlikely to wander, but they can feel dissatisfied in their relationship if it becomes too samey. Scorpio will try different things to keep their relationship fresh and appreciate their partner doing the same. One of my favourite websites for more detailed information on Scorpio compatibility is numerologysign.com, bohoastro.com and astrologyyard.com.

Struggles

While on the surface Scorpios appear confident and hard as nails, underneath they are quite fragile and emotional. Little things that happen in a relationship can affect them deeply, especially things involving a third person as Scorpios have an intense jealous streak. They will dwell on small things that have happened and let them become big things without their partner necessarily realising that anything is wrong. This can manifest in unexpected emotional outburst in response to seemingly minor issues. Scorpios also do not forgive easily and will have many things in their mind that are deal breakers. If you break one of these deals, don’t expect the relationship to end quietly. Scorpios need to let out their emotions and make sure the other person understands how what they have done has hurt them. Scorpios can be quite emotional, but a good way to control their emotions is to meditate. 

Zodiac Compatibility

Aries (March 21-April 19)

While Scorpio and Aries will be drawn together by intense physical attraction, their relationships are explosive and often short-lived. Aries’ need to control the relationship and tendency to put their own needs ahead of all others can be a challenge for Scorpio, who likes to be pursued by their lover and have their needs heard. Scorpio and Aries can make their relationship work, but both need to make the conscious decision to put the needs of the other first. If they do work it out, it will be an intense and passionate connection.

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

Taurus and Scorpio are both deeply emotional and staunchly loyal. Their shared values and their ability and desire to understand and support one another make them an excellent match for a long-term relationship. However, when there is trouble in paradise, it can be hard for these two to come back together. Both are stubborn and inflexible, and once crossed, unforgiving. If both Taurus and Scorpio are committed to making their relationship work, they will find in each other a partner with whom they can share the deepest, most guarded, emotions.

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

Walking through life in entirely different ways, a Scorpio-Gemini connection can be a case of opposites attract. While both tend to be good judges of character, Scorpio and Gemini can be a mystery to one another as Scorpio keeps their true selves under guard and Gemini takes on many faces. If Scorpio and Gemini can get past the surface to the true person underneath, they can form a deep connection that challenges the other to grow into a more profound version of themselves.

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

Complimentary watery natures make Scorpio and Cancer an ideal match. While breaking the ice may be challenging as both on the reserved side, once broken, a deep emotional connection is made rapidly. A long-term relationship will be safe and nurturing. Both signs can be a little jealous and possessive, and intimate knowledge of the other means they can avoid hurting the other when they want, but also push the other’s button when they are feeling hurt or angry.

Leo (23 July-22 August)

In many ways, Scorpio and Leo are complete opposites. Scorpio is private and reserved while Leo is an exhibitionist. Scorpio may be attracted to Leo because they possess traits that Scorpio sees themselves as lacking, and Leo to Scorpio as Scorpio tends to stroke their ego in a way that they like. The resulting partnership will be intense, and Leo’s flirty nature may set off Scorpio’s jealous side. If they can make it work, Leo and Scorpio can be a dynamic duo with Leo fronting the operation, and Scorpio pulling strings behind the scenes.

Virgo (23 August-22 September)

A deep conversation between Virgo and Scorpio will lead to a true and meaningful connection that can blossom into romantic love. But as both are wary of trusting their feelings to another, it could take some time. Both crave a balance of intimacy and privacy that they will be able to find, and they will enjoy an equilibrium in the relationship. Their shared attention to detail and dedication to hard work will help this couple build the life they want together as equal partners.

Libra (September 23-October 22)

While an attraction will likely form quickly between Libra and Scorpio, developing a relationship will take more time. Scorpio will test Libra, not immediately believing that they have what it takes to be a long-term partner. There may be challenges in the testing process, as flirty Libra will push Scorpio’s jealousy buttons, and Libra’s active social life is difficult for Scorpio to penetrate. However, if a compromise can be met, both can bring something to the life of the other that they feel like they lack, leading to a strong partnership.

Scorpio (October 23-November 21)

Scorpios will understand each other’s wiring in a way that others simply can’t. The connection will likely be immediate and feel primal when it is forming. Scorpios will be good at reading the emotions that the other keeps secret, and also at knowing how to provide the other with support, even when they don’t know that they need it. However, as both share their deep emotions, this can be too much of a good thing, leading the relationship to feel heavy, rather than light and lifting.

Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)

The element of danger and the feeling that there is something a little sordid going on creates a strong attraction that brings these two signs together. Both have strong wills, that can lead them to form a relationship, sometimes seemingly against their own interests. Despite the apparent mismatch, and the regular, fighting a strong relationship can form if both remember to give each other the space they need, and let the other be their own person without trying to change them.

Capricorn (December 22-January 19)

Both uncompromising, Capricorn and Scorpio may struggle to find common ground that they need to maintain a long-term relationship. If both can avoid games, and be open and truthful with one another, they can form a dynamic power couple that supports each other while taking on the world. This couple will need to learn to communicate directly and not expect the other person to read their mind.

Aquarius (January 20-February 18)

While Scorpio is intensely emotional, if reserved in showing those emotions, Aquarius is light, balancing the weight of Scorpio. Aquarius may find this a heavy weight to bear, and may also struggle with Scorpio’s desire to control them and curtail their freedom. As different as these two signs are, they find each other intensely interesting, and if Scorpio can accept Aquarius as they are, and Aquarius can be conscious of how their behaviour effects Scorpio’s feelings, they can form a strong, intense and healthy romantic bond.

Pisces (February 19-March 20)

Scorpio and Pisces will feel like they have found a soul mate in the others, as they are both intensely emotional and spiritual. This does not mean that a relationship will be smooth sailing. Both tend to shut down and withdraw when there is a problem, rather than discuss it openly and clearly. This tactic can backfire as the other is left feeling isolated and unsure of their partner’s feelings. Both need to learn to know themselves better and catch this behaviour. If they can learn to talk about their problems and concerns, the relationship will be an overwhelmingly happy one.

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